Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Parting is NOT "sweet" sorrow!!

Well, things have really changed in my life overnight. I am not sure if I mentioned that two of the grandchildren I care for daily are being adopted and are currently not legally "grandchildren", just of the heart. One of them, the two year old, Zach, is actually not my daughter's charge either, but that of a close family friend. Due to reasons beyond my ability to fathom, his "mom" has moved on and left the family. Overnight. Just like that. I am not sure whether I will see him again or not, but for now I am told not to count on it. He was a handful and often created an atmosphere of chaos, but gosh, he is only two! He is smart and clever and funny too. I shall miss those characteristics.

Though I do know some of the details of her decision and see that it may in fact be a good move, it changes the dynamics of my daily life quite drastically. It has caused hurt and confusion among the other children as well. And the adults. But, perhaps for them, it is the best move. Frequent misunderstandings and untruthfulness only widen the relational gaps. Sometimes sudden departures and moving on are the only ways to deal with "stuff", I guess. At least she thought so.

So, it has been a quiet day. We went to the park, the three of us, and played with computers and watched a movie and made lunch, etc. Sort of the usual stuff. And gathered Zach's things into a pile to be picked up later by another friend. Bye, sweetie Zach. God bless you! Love, Grandma

1 comment:

Chloe said...

Children are pretty resilient. They'll miss Zach for a while and then get caught up in the day to day task of being. It is harder on grownups, I'm afraid.

The Race Car sound excellent! When I taight preschool, we made cars out of boxes with pie pans for wheels. Then we rigged them with straps so the kids could "drive" to the big cafeteria (the drive in), to watch a reel movie and eat popcorn.